Fear is a weapon of control, but embracing it is so empowering.

And the things that we fear are a weapon to be held against us… – Ian Rush

Yesterday while putting away some things the song The Weapon off of Rush’s Signals album popped up on the old iPod, and it struck me how much the words ring true to things going on around me now in the news and in my life. Rush seems to have a song that would be fitting to almost anything, and with the exploding of the Duggar case, the aligning of sides, and subsequent attacks on my friends, it occurred to me that fear is behind so much many elements here. Other lyrics of The Weapon speak to that – our fear being used against us, others being ruled by their fear, using the fear of hell to scare others.

Since the story broke of Josh Duggar’s bad behavior, there have been no shortage of people who not only came out in support of Josh, they feel the need to blame his victims, excuse his behavior by downplaying it, or blame the girls for doing such “shameful” acts like not “guarding their modesty” at the age of 5 if they are playing and their dress pops up, or they are seen coming out the bath wrapped in a towel. The one that got me  was when Jessa Duggar’s father-in-law  Michael Seewald had this to say:

“Many times it is simply lack of opportunity or fear of consequences that keep us from falling into grievous sin even though our fallen hearts would love to indulge the flesh. We should not be shocked that this occurred in the Duggar’s home, we should rather be thankful to God if we have been spared such, and pray that he would keep us and our children from falling.”

Um…not so fast there. Not all of us are child predators, and it has nothing to do with fear of being caught or punished. If fear of getting caught or punished is the only thing holding one in check, then I am safe in saying that the person is neither moral nor ethical, and is a danger to society.

The Weapon – Signals – Rush



He’s not afraid of your judgment

He knows of horrors worse than your Hell
He’s a little bit afraid of dying –
But he’s a lot more afraid of your lying

And the things that he fears
Are a weapon to be held against him…

The last few days have been quite ugly, with members of Quiverfull and their supporters going after people who speak out against the harm that they do. Many who read this are familiar with Vyckie Garrison and her blog No Longer Quivering.  http://www.patheos.com/blogs/nolongerquivering/
There have been some nasty attacks directed not only at Vyckie, but at others who post on her blog, or who are friends of hers, and they just keep coming. What are they so afraid of?  It may be a combination of hatred and fear driving them, but I feel like fear of being found out, fear of being criticized, perhaps the tiniest seed of doubt asking “What if I’m wrong?” may be playing into  this. I can’t say.

Can any part of life – be larger than life?
Even love must be limited by time
And those who push us down that they might climb –
Is any killer worth more than his crime?

Like a steely blade in a silken sheath
We don’t see what they’re made of
They shout about love, but when push comes to shove
They live for the things they’re afraid of

And the knowledge that they fear
Is a weapon to be used against them…

For those keeping score at home, the families who are pouncing on the “posse” are having a type of jujitsu being done on them. As we all know, things are forever on the internet, and we are all to happy to share their vile comments publicly for the world to see, and let the world watch as these extremists implode. With each new appearance or statement to the media, their remarks become more and more outrageous, and they keep digging themselves deeper and deeper. I don’t mind supplying more shovels to let them keep digging, then pulling out a flashlight so that others can watch.

To anyone reading this who may have an idea that they want to come after me and “beat me up” via internet argument, I will only say this to you: Coming after survivors of abuse is a Very Bad Thing ™ and I have a webcam, a microphone, go on a lot of podcasts and vlogcasts, know a ton of bloggers, and if I need a clean up on aisle 5, they’ll come assist with embarrassing you or outing you to your mother or something. I might not like to fight back, but I do and will, and I fight to win. I got over my fear a long time ago.

There is now a website: http://www.jerks4jesus.com/  If you behave badly towards any of us ladies who are fighting back against the patriarchy mindset and you do so under you name, your statements will wind up there and we will share the link with others on Face Book and Twitter. As long as you know how to behave in public you have nothing to worry about, but if you wander into the forums and persist in being an asshat after being asked to stop, or you send private messages that are hateful and/or vulgar while claiming to be a Christian, your stuff is going to be all over the internet. You have been warned.

Have a nice day!







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